Self Management

The ability to regulate and balance your own thoughts, emotions, behavior, and actions effectively is covered under self-management. It involves being responsible for your decisions, thoughts, communications, actions, and overall well-being. To lead a fulfilling life, self-management skills such as determination, focus, and continuous learning help you be successful in various areas of life.

Why do you even need self management?

Self management skills play a vital role in improving your professional and personal life by creating a positive change in you.

5 A's of Self Management include:

1. Avoid
2. Alter
3. Adapt
4. Accept
5. Active

The ability to regulate and balance your own thoughts, emotions, behavior, and actions effectively is covered under self-management. It involves being responsible for your decisions, thoughts, communications, actions, and overall well-being. To lead a fulfilling life, self-management skills like determination, focus, and continuous learning help you be successful in various areas of life.

Bellow tips will help you understand it better :

A. Self Awareness

1. Understanding your strength, weaknesses, values, and goals helps you make informed decision and set realistic objectives
2. Developing strong decision making skills by assessing options, considering outcomes, and making choices that align with your values.
3. Taking responsibility for your action and their outcomes in simple words Learn from your mistakes.
4. Applying affective communication skills both via expressing yourself and listening to others hence resolving conflicts.

B. Stress Management

1. 1. Learning to identify and manage stress effectively by practicing mindfulness, relaxation technique and stress reduction strategies to maintain physical and emotional well being.

C. Emotional Intelligence

1. .Understanding and managing your emotions by recognising when you are feeling overwhelmed, angry or anxious and employ techniques to regain balance.
2. Embracing a growth mindset and committing to life long learning by expanding your knowledge and skills.
3. Developing resilience to bounce back from setback and challenges by accepting that failures are a part of life and viewing them as opportunities for growth.

D. Time Management

1. Creating a structured schedule prioritising tasks at hand using tools like calendars, to-do list, making a schedule, and other techniques.
2. Define clear and specific short term and long term goals.
3. Cultivating self discipline to stay on track with your goals by setting boundaries minimising distractions and maintaining focus.
4. Being flexible & Adaptable

Cord Management

Cords are automatic energetic connections that develop between two people, often triggered at some point when your energy diverts from its original purpose to reach out to another. They are also referred to as 'psychic cords' or 'etheric cords.' The concept of energetic cords is closely associated with the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. Some cords can be so subtle that we may not even be aware of their existence. However, an accumulation of cords from many people and the gradual depletion of energy over time may create an energy deficit. The nature of cords can be classified as healthy or unhealthy based on the impact they have on your energy system.

A healthy and positive cord provides stability and peace in your life, ensuring that you take care of yourself and others with love, support, and connection. Conversely, an unhealthy or negative cord may transmit negative emotions or energy, leaving you emotionally unstable, drained, and overly dependent on your partner's or person's time and attention, often neglecting your own needs and comfort in the process. These cords or energy connections can be severed between two people to bring more stability and harmony into life, fostering a sense of peace, freedom, and completeness.

A healthy and positive cord will give you stability and peace in your life making sure that you are taking care of yourself

• You are desperately wishing you could help someone.
• You are afraid about being inadequate to a task or event.
• Your system is overwhelmed by an assault, so it cannot properly process and resolve it.
• Someone is continuously thinking of you sending positive or negative vibes

How the cords connect between two people:

• The ones you throw because you are trying to help them.
• The ones they grab at you with to get something from you.
• The ones you throw because you feel overwhelmed and hurt by them.
• The ones they throw at you because they have been trying to avoid some of their own baggage by taking it out on you.

Let us explore types of cords that can affect your energy system:

A. Energy cords

These are physical structures made of energy. They can be visualized as tubes that connect people. If the cord is depleting someone, the energy flows away from them. If the cord is feeding someone, the energy flows toward them.

B.Etheric cords:

These are cords that can be cut to banish an ex, relieve anxiety, and relieve stress.

C. Cords of attachment or dependency

These are physical structures made of energy. Cords of attachment are invisible bonds that connect people together in the spiritual realm. They are energy structures that cause patterns from the past to continue in the present moment. Cords of attachment can be form with: Family, Friends, Co-workers, Acquaintances, Romantic relationships.

Cords of attachment are connected to one or more chakras of both people. The specific chakra they are rooted in depends on the thought and emotional frequency you share with that person.

It is important to note here that the concept of energetic cords is a belief that exists in some spiritual and energy healing traditions but is not yet universally accepted or supported by scientific evidence. The effectiveness and significance of cord cutting and related practices are matters of personal belief and interpretation. Individuals who are interested in exploring these concepts should do so with an open mind and consider consulting with experienced practitioners or mentors in the field.

Cord Cutting

Though it is advisable to take help of a trained practitioner to cut cords properly for sustainability, you may also experience practicing the same. To practice cutting cords with someone and release emotional attachments, you can:

• Sit in a peaceful, quiet place, and close your eyes.
• Slow your breathing and get into a meditative state.
• Invite in any type of guide you believe in.
• Imagine the cord that connects you to the person whom you wish to be released from.
• Visualize yourself holding a pair of scissors and cutting the cord, letting the connection fade back into darkness.Visualize yourself holding a pair of scissors and cutting the cord, letting the connection fade back into darkness.

Emotions Management

Emotional management, also known as emotional regulation, refers to the ability to recognize, understand, and effectively manage one's own emotions in various situations. It's a crucial skill for maintaining emotional well-being, fostering healthy relationships, and making sound decisions. Emotional management is a type of therapy that helps people better understand, accept, regulate, and express emotions. Human beings naturally give more weight to negative emotions than positive ones, a phenomenon known as negativity bias. Negative emotions tend to carry a significant impact, whereas positive feelings are often subtler. Developing a habit of noticing these positive experiences may boost resilience and overall well-being. In emotional management, individuals learn constructive ways to respond to both positive and negative stimuli. We assist them in becoming aware that it's healthy to express their feelings, emphasizing the importance of how and when they express them.

Emotional management can help people: 

• Respond rationally to situations that evoke specific emotions.
• Balance and regulate their behavior on a day-to-day basis.
• Successfully navigate relationships and handle stressful times.

7 strategies that can help to manage emotions in a healthy and helpful way.  

1. Self-introspection: Identify and reduce triggers.
2. Tune into physical symptoms for reflection.
3. Consider the story you're telling yourself through inner talk. Express how you feel and what you wish would happen.
4. Engage in positive self-talk and take time to calm down.
5. Make a conscious choice about your response; ask for help to find a solution.
6. Check for positive emotions to adapt.
7. Seek a therapist for unmanaged emotions.

Emotional management is an ongoing process. Effective emotional management takes time, patience, and practice. It's about developing self-awareness and a toolbox of strategies that work for you in different situations. By implementing these strategies, you can become more skilled at understanding and managing your emotions, leading to greater emotional well-being and healthier relationships. This can be achieved through reading, self-reflection, and learning from your experiences.

Grief Management

Grief is a natural and complex emotional response to loss, and it can affect individuals in various ways. Managing grief involves coping with the intense emotions, adjusting to life without the person or thing you've lost, and finding ways to move forward. Aarchechon help clients setting aside "Grief Time" to manage the day to day challenges using tips, techniques and practices that help elevate pain and other emotions that surface along with grief. It's important to accept that grief is a part of your life. It may resurface at times, particularly during significant anniversaries or life events.

Some steps include:

• "Grief time" is set as per individual requirements. It may include allowing yourself to cry, sitting quietly and thinking about your loved one or even sharing your emotions with them, listing any questions you may have to talking positive about your loved ones to known people.
• Help making difficult decisions:  Some decisions will concern finalizing their affairs and sorting through belongings whereas others will concern their grief and building a new life for themselves.
• Maintaining a Connection: The aim of working through your grief isn't to forget your loved one but to learn how to continue living without them physically present in your life. The following questions can help you think about how to develop a new connection with your loved one.

Asking yourself some questions:

• What did you learn from them?
• What were their values that are important to you today?
• What advice would they give you now about how they would like to be remembered?
• Who can you share stories with? - find opportunities to reminisce with others. And the likes

To help you pay attention to your well-being, it is recommended:

• Eat at regular meal times, even if you don't feel like it
• Plan a simple activity each day
• Develop a to-do list and aim to check off one or two things each day
• Allow yourself time to cry and express your sadness. Crying can be a healthy way to release emotional tension.
• Grief can be very stressful, so it's important to let your doctor know what has happened
• Seek opportunities to be with your friends and family, especially those who are good listeners
• Accept invitations: Try to do something socially even if you don't feel like it
• Try to do something outdoors each day
• Walk wherever you can
• Limit your alcohol intake

One could also:

• Start an online journal
• Make a coffee-table photo book with all of your favorite photos
• Contact friends, family and colleagues of your loved one and ask them to write some special memories or insights you can collate into a book
• Seek solace in your faith if it is meaningful to you.
• Set Realistic Expectations: Grief is not something you "get over." Instead, aim for learning to live with your grief. The pain may lessen over time, but it may never fully disappear.

Remember that grief is a unique and ongoing personal process. Everyone experiences and copes with grief differently. What's important is finding strategies and resources that work for you and seeking the support you need during this challenging time.

Breakup Management

Coping with a breakup can be challenging, involving a range of emotions such as sadness, anger, and grief. It is often one of the most difficult and emotionally painful processes in our lives. The loss of a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, or partner can feel like being torn apart, causing significant pain. Some individuals may even express suicidal thoughts or thoughts of self-harm in the aftermath of a relationship ending, as they struggle to cope with the loss. These energetic cords or connections between two people can be severed to bring more stability and harmony to life, fostering a sense of peace, freedom, and completeness. With increased awareness, individuals can better navigate the breakup situation by employing self-empowering strategies.

1. Apply the "no contact" rule, cutting off all communication with your ex, including phone calls, texting, direct messages, social media interactions, and in-person meetups.
2. Give yourself space and don't personalize the loss.
3. Develop an understanding that breakups are often an inevitable part of dating.
4. Take time to grieve; don't fight your feelings.
5. Prioritize basic self-care and maintain a balanced diet.
6. Pen down your thoughts and feelings.
7. Talk to people you care about.
8. Don't lose faith in people or relationships.
9. Don't rely on your ex for support or try to maintain a friendship.
10. Look for the positives in being single; remember you can survive alone.
11. Avoid unhealthy coping strategies and examine the lessons in the breakup.
12. Perform a closing ritual and start afresh.
13. Consider finding professional support with a therapist.